Why A Girl Shouldn’t Let Her Cheating Ex-Man Ruin Her Future


When you first met your guy… things were perfect. You would stay up late at nights talking on the phone, knowing that you had work in the morning. Because who needs 8 hours of sleep when you’re in love. And when he held you close, pulled you deeper into his arms and sought your lips with his mouth… you wanted the night to last forever.

You were crazy about this guy and thought you had a future together. Eventually, you realized that he had flaws but as you got older, you were willing to compromise. You even introduced him to your parents… because after all… it’s time to settle down… your biological clock is ticking.

And then one fine day, after all the suspicions you had, you found out that he’s been having an affair with Melissa. You had a feeling he was sleeping with that “bitch”. And when the reality sets in, you try to control the sobs but eventually you break down in tears.

A few months later you’re still scarred by his act of infidelity.  You’re not willing to let down your guard and you’ve embraced the mantra “All men are dogs”. So, effectively, you’ve made one asshole ruin your outlook on life.

However, in this case, your past experiences and your future experiences are mutually exclusive. Furthermore, it would be silly to let your ex dampen your attitude towards men, when he’s probably sleeping with nuff woman. Me saying “probably” is just to sugarcoat the truth… because you and I both know he is f*cking down the place.

Now, all men are not the same. There are good guys out there. Sure, he’ll make errors along the way. Heck, he may even flirt with a cute girl on the one off occasion. But he’ll quickly realize his error and ensure that he does not continue with the foolishness.

There will always be temptations for a man… especially a man in a committed relationship. Women will try to sniff him out. And it’s natural to feel good about yourself when a pretty lady compliments you. But, notwithstanding all these distractions, you need to know that you have men out there who will do whatever it takes to remain faithful.

And eventually, you will notice a big difference. When he leans into your body, gently puts one hand on your face and kisses you, using the other to peel off your clothes… you can tell that he’s not doing this to fulfill his needs… he’s doing this because he needs you.

So, when an attractive guy has to courage to come up to you, say something witty and engage you in a fun-loving conversation… perhaps you should not put him in the same category as your ex. Give him a clean slate.

FYI – There are different types of dogs… Some are loyal, they will never betray you… and some are not.

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About Christopher Lai

Christopher Lai is an award winning Jamaican relationship blogger and author. His articles have appeared in The Huffington Post and Thought Catalog.
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4 Responses to Why A Girl Shouldn’t Let Her Cheating Ex-Man Ruin Her Future

  1. Coolmugs says:

    just tell me where I can find them the loyal men.

  2. reach the point where i dont care about bun no more as long as u dont bring her in my space i’m gud

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