Month: March 2015

When a girl sends a man her naked picture… he gets excited… (pun intended)… because it shows that she really likes him. It strokes his ego, and it’s very useful when he’s about to knock one out. Men are drawn to racy women… it’s just our nature.

In the same breath, some women love the thrill of exchanging these types of pictures (or videos). And the reality is … women have become more open about bedroom activities. Perhaps you may disagree with the statement but the astronomical sales of Fifty Shades of Grey suggests otherwise. But of course, women only read the book… or watch the movie… because they are “curious”.

Curious my ass – they’re living vicariously through that movie.

A few women will voluntarily send their pictures to men because they know it will turn them on, while other women will send stuff because their boyfriends asked for it. And then in some cases, some women will send it because their boyfriends demanded it. So, although she was hesitant at first… he pressured her, made her feel guilty… until she caved in.

Whether she voluntarily sent pictures or she was forced to do so… she’s left herself exposed. When there’s a break-up, her boyfriend may turn out to be an asshole and post her pictures to be vindictive. Or, her device may be stolen… and the thief may have access to the classified photos. It’s also possible that her computer may be hacked by someone who wants to be mischievous. And the list goes on.

If her picture is released, few will sympathise with her. People will say all kinds of things – “She’s so stupid”, “What a whore”, “Ediat gyal” etc. And it’s doesn’t matter how strong she is, if her pics are all over the internet, it’s enough to break her down and reduce her to tears.

There may also be ramifications at her job. People may view her differently… think less of her. It may even ruin her chance at a promotion. It’s a tough reality to face. She also has to contend with the embarrassment that she may have caused some family members… especially if she has a child… or if she has a younger sibling who looks up to her.

If a man really cares about his girl, he needs to be mindful of the risks associated with naked pictures and videos. His satisfaction can’t take precedence over her reputation. Men need to live by this mantra. We also should not applaud the men who maliciously ruin the lives of women.

It’s natural to want to see these sexy pictures but it should be more natural for us to want to protect our women.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I know it’s unlikely that pictures will end up on the internet. But you can’t play percentage games with someone’s future. It’s not worth it.

And the truth is… the best memories are never captured on camera. No matter how old you get, there are some things that you will never forget. They will remain as vivid as ever, they will always be embedded in your thoughts. And you won’t need a picture or video to remember the details.

Now, I know some people are adventurous and will continue to take the risk. If you insist on sending stuff or documenting your sex life… perhaps you should consider obscuring your face. But … it’s better to be safe than to be sorry.

And ladies, if a man can’t respect this stance, he doesn’t have your best interest at heart.

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When you just met someone, and you’re really into them, it’s natural to get excited about talking to them. You get up before the alarm goes off… get ready in good time… and you’re off to work. You find that you’re in a great mood and not even a 3 hour meeting can dampen your spirit.

You’re still trying to impress your crush, so you think carefully about what you want to text. And when you type the perfect message…. you rethink… and then you retype an even more perfect message. But then you reread it a few times and you’re still not satisfied, so you tweak it one more time. And then… somehow… somewhere in all the indecisiveness… you send it with a minor typo.

If you’re a guy you whisper under your breath damn it; if you’re a girl you whisper ugh. Nah – I’m just kidding… the unisex response for messing up a text to your crush is shit.

Anyway, after you have sent your text, you anxiously wait for a response. And time has never moved more slowly. So, when your crush texts you back — it doesn’t matter if you’re a wanna-be-thug, a nerd, a beauty contestant, an insecure girl — you smile contently to yourself.  And you both text happily ever after for the rest of the day.  You flirt, you laugh, you smile. Before you know it… it’s 5:00pm and work is over.

Now, unfortunately, as the relationship develops, it’s unrealistic to regularly text throughout the day. Frankly speaking, we all have things to do and there is no way you can be productive if you’re glued to your phone.  Additionally, it’s important to let your partner miss you.

The thing is this… when you’re consistently around someone, when you consistently talk to someone… it can inevitably become unbearable.

Here’s a fundamental rule in life: people get tired of things after a while. But when you love something, and you take a break from it, you always come back with renewed passion.  And this theory applies to relationships.

Now don’t get me wrong, I believe it’s very important to communicate. Some of us fall short in this department. But it’s equally important to give your partner a little space. So, we have to find the right balance to keep the spark alive.

Life is dynamic and there are times when you need to talk to your partner throughout the day. And that’s fine. But you can’t expect to be consistently messaging every day… even if that’s how your relationship started out.

Let me be clear. It’s absolutely important to send a ‘good morning’ text to your spouse. It’s nice to check up on them throughout the day. It’s great to send the one off flirty message “Can’t wait to see your sexy ass lata”… But it’s not okay to be needy… it’s not okay to be nagging… it’s not okay to be annoying like Manchester United fans.

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When a man is lying in bed, looking at his girl undress after a fun night out on the town, he’ll crave her body. And he will crave it even more when she unhooks her bra, looks suggestively at him, and slowly crawls into bed.

As she taunts every inch of his body, it will heighten his rampant desire for her. He will devour her lips, torture her with his touch and then take her.  And hopefully, he will last more than 5 minutes.

Anyway, after sex, if he’s really into his girl, it would be natural for him to want to cuddle. Because he enjoys being close to her… very close to her. He may stroke her arm and playfully kiss her on the shoulder. I dunno how to explain it… but there’s something about holding her closer while she stretches, then shuffles her body to align it with his, and smiles contentedly.

It’s also natural for him to fall asleep in the “spoon” position. But eventually, he should be able to roll over to the other side of the bed. It’s impossible to get a good night’s rest when you’re cuddling all night. It’s the most frustrating thing ever. His hand will get numb… her hand will get numb. He’ll want to adjust his body but he has to keep still because if he moves… she’ll wake up.

Albert Einstein once said “for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” Or was it Newton? One of those nerds said it… can’t remember who it was. Anyway, the point is… every time he manages to sleep, she’ll shift and wake him up. Every time she manages to fall asleep, he’ll shift and wake her up.

AND THEN YOU HAVE THE SNORING. DEAR GOD. That will drive someone crazy. This is annoying… especially when you need to get some rest because you have to go to work the next day.

So, without further ado, here is my suggestion:

Tonight, make love to your woman… hold her closely till both your bodies become the same temperature. Cuddle up wid her after. You may or may not fall asleep in that position but after awhile kiss her on the cheek and say “goodnight babes” and roll over to the other side of the bed. If she’s supposed to wake up at 6:00 am, set your alarm for 5:50 am.  When the alarm goes off in the morning, roll back over to her, put your arm around her, your foot over her… and enjoy 10 minutes of magic… till it’s time to get ready for work “Yawn”.

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