7.5 Ways To Know That You’re In Love

Language can be limiting in its ability to describe love. Sometimes, the existing vocabulary may fail to accurately capture a particular feeling between a man and a woman. Love searches the imagination and inspires originality. Pay careful attention to the following two words that were created to explain this phenomenon.

eyoos /eyus/ ▪ n. the force of attraction which compels eye contact

sleoute /sli-oot/ ▪ n. that silent moment between two people that words fail to describe


1.   Only a kiss will allow you to sleep comfortably

She complains that she is too close to the edge of the bed; you protest that she has most of the sheet.  Somehow you both ‘compromise’ and inch a little closer.  You can feel her soft breath against your neck.  As she pretends to keep up a semblance of normality, the inevitability of eyoos makes her sigh for one last time… Finally, you can get some rest. Goodnight.

2.   You challenge your bank account on a regular basis

I think the internet bill is due next week or is it tomorrow? When the fuel light comes on… how empty is the gas tank?

You begin to make financial sacrifices to ensure that you are in a position to take your lady out on a romantic date. Maybe you drank water for the entire week, although you craved orange juice.  Or you could be in a clothing store that has a 50% sale on your favourite t-shirt brand, but you decide that you would prefer to purchase three red roses instead.


3.   Sometimes for no reason, you just have to say “I love you”

It’s not that the five-hour ceremony that you were forced to attend is boring. You are only yawning because of a lack of sleep. Damn it! … Did the keynote speaker just spend half an hour discussing the 1st slide of his presentation?  Naturally, you take the opportunity to send your girlfriend a message saying “I love you”.

On a serious note, you take the time to text her “I love you” while you’re enjoying yourself at an event, when you’re on a break from studying, at the shopping mall, between exercises at the gym. Of course, your eyes remained glued to your cell phone, eagerly awaiting the response: I love you too.

4.   When you’re going through a difficult time, you spend a good portion of the day listening to songs on YouTube

You feel like Michael Bolton is talking to you in “How Am I Supposed to Live Without You”. Fifteen minutes later, you realize that you’ve been listening to the same song. I guess if you changed the melody it would have affected your nostalgic moment. Nonetheless, you get a hold of yourself and few clicks later you end up playing “Hard to Say I’m Sorry” by Az Yet.

Don’t worry, by the end of the day, to convince yourself that you’re cool, you will start listening to tracks from dancehall and rap artistes.  “And every time I step up in the building, everybody’s hands go up…”



5.   Her beauty never fades

After waiting three hours for her to get ready for dinner, you were beginning to get a tad bit impatient.  But when she appears, you realize that you would have waited four hours for a moment like this. For a second, you attempt to compliment her with a big adjective but your words become delbmuj (read from right to left), so you manage to say “you look nice really”…. I mean … “you look really nice”.

It’s difficult for you to concentrate the entire night. The conversation is engaging but you are struggling to control your emotions. Her beauty is magnificent, her charm is riveting. In one breathless sleoute, your temperature begins to rise.

6.   She understands your sense of humour

You are excited to share all your corny jokes with her.  Sometimes she will laugh with you, sometimes she will laugh at you… but you will always laugh together. Good friends often have inside jokes, soulmates often have in love jokes.


7.   Conversations are about anything

You can finally talk to someone about your insecurities and receive genuine advice on how to overcome your challenges. It’s not always easy to be open, but she makes you feel comfortable. You find yourself conversing about even the most sensitive issues because she will be there for you.

7.5   Life is incomplete without her

When you understand that you have so much more to give of yourself in the relationship, there is an endless desire to improve because you want to enjoy her heart-warming smile forever.  You realize that LIFE (Love Is For Ever) without her would be like the World Cup Finals without a football. You are certain that she is your better half (0.5).

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About Christopher Lai

Christopher Lai is an award winning Jamaican relationship blogger and author. His articles have appeared in The Huffington Post and Thought Catalog.
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33 Responses to 7.5 Ways To Know That You’re In Love

  1. Neville Albright says:

    hahah…love it! good article bro

  2. Robyn says:


    I can relate 100% to what you’re saying bro. Most importantly, the greatest message is to appreciate with all your might, the love of your life.

    Keep up the writing.

  3. calise powell says:

    great so true

  4. Simeca says:

    I really appreciate your unique writing style, with the introduction of 2 uncommon words and incorporating them in the article, nameing the article 7.5 when its really 8 but then ending it with that reason to make it 7.5. Nice. Kept me engaged.

    • chrislai27 says:

      Hey Simeca…Thank you very much! Yup, I created the two words with the hope of adding more meaning to the article. Its really good to hear that you were engaged, I am encouraged to keep writing and very grateful for the support.

  5. Traceyann says:

    it warms my heart seems like its about me, great article

  6. chrislai27 says:

    Traceyann, Thanks for taking the time to share how you felt about the article. Greatly Appreciated.

  7. You made me begin to question if my bf really loves me 😦 Great article thou

  8. very good article…it really helped me to see that myself and my bf are truly in love

  9. chrislai27 says:

    Kimberley – nice to hear that the article helped. All the best in your relationship.

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  11. Corve says:

    Love this article.

  12. I absolutely love this article.. I must say the unusual title got me right away! can`t stop re-reading 7.5 loving it 🙂

  13. Missy May says:

    Such a great post!! I really enjoyed reading it – Signs to look for i suppose. Thanks!!


  14. I enjoyed reading this, and am left feeling happy with a big smile on my face, because it helped me to understand how a guy feel when he loves you, absolutely love
    this 🙂

  15. Jeff says:

    This is a beautiful article Christopher. Thoroughly enjoy your way with words.

    Great work.

  16. natresha sewell says:

    thanks i really need these signs rite now….am sure to know whats real

  17. Charmaine says:

    This is great Chris, but do you think you could write something about those men who finds it hard to say what they feel, how do they communicate their love? What does a girl look for?

  18. Nice one
    Think i have at least 4 down so far…lol

  19. vanessia says:

    I must say, I am in total agreement…i can safely say i have experience this…thanks for sharing

  20. opal says:

    Thanks Chris…I really appreciate this article. .you’re so correct…reminds of when I was deeply in love.

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