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To Feel Like This Again

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Nicholas Thomas is young and handsome and he’s moving up the corporate ladder at State Foods. He’s also a womanizer. When his crush, Lisa Davis, the CEO of State Foods visits Jamaica for a conference, Nick is determined to get her, despite their age difference.

Lisa is smart and successful. As CEO, she’s at the top of her game, having made her mark in the corporate world, but Lisa is in a dead-end marriage and longs for more.

At the conference Lisa meets Nick, whose boldness intrigues her and so she accepts his invitation to tour a coffee farm in the Blue Mountains. What begins as a weekend fling becomes much more.

Things get complicated when Nick meets Emily, the daughter of Lisa’s best friend. Emily is not only beautiful, she’s also smart; a quality that Nick admires. The chemistry between them is undeniable. Nick is drawn to both women: Lisa, his crush, whom he looks up to and Emily with whom he feels a deep connection — but he can’t have them both.

Faced with this dilemma, Nick is forced to choose, but at great cost.

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October 22, 2024
When Your Girl Is Looking Good; Here’s Why You Should Tell her

Men have all kinds of ridiculous expectations. We have traditional ones: we expect her to cook, clean and wash. We also have modern ones: she must have a degree, she must have a good job, she must have a second degree. And if we have children… we want her to take care of them. We’re not going to change diapers at 2:00 am. Actually, we’re not going to change diapers, period. What an unreasonable bunch we are.

And, last but not least, we all have the ultimate expectation. We want a pretty girl… and we want her to look good all the time. Actually, in a perfect world, we want a drop dead gorgeous girl, but life isn’t perfect, so we’re cool with pretty.

But why do we need a pretty girl? Well, we enjoy having sex with someone with certain physical attributes. We like it when other men stare at her in admiration, and acknowledge that we’re the boss. We also love it when other girls remark “your girlfriend is so pretty.” Basically, we are shallow.

Now, being shallow is by no means a good thing. But throughout our lives, we’ve been socialized that way. So, it’s difficult to make a 180 degree turn overnight. We can, however, take baby steps to improve our relationships. And we can start by being more appreciative.

Okay, so we want a super-hot girl. Fine.

We need to, however, understand what it takes for a woman to look her best. Well, it begins with her having to go to the hairdresser, and maybe sitting under that alien-looking helmet that blows hot air. So, her head is on fire for hours.

Then we have the whole make-up saga. Applying all that powder on her face must be annoying. It must even be more annoying, if the place is hot, and she has to constantly visit the restroom, to reapply. Like, how do you have all that powder on your face and not want to sneeze?

And we could go and on… we could talk about the stress that goes into selecting a dress. And if that’s not enough, we could speak about the stuff that complements the dress (nails, handbag, and accessories). And how could we ever forget about heels. I honestly don’t know how women wear them all night. Walking home in football boots is uncomfortable enough.

That being said, it’s important to show some appreciation.

When you pick her up to go to the movies … it makes a big difference if you say to her “you look really pretty … is that a new top?” You’d be surprised to know how much of an impact you can make by noticing the little things. And it makes a bigger difference if you put your arms around her, and pull her close. Because when you’re affectionate with your girl, she can tell that you’re still attracted to her. And your affection will make her feel desired.

If you’ve made plans to go out for dinner, and she’s taking forever to get ready… try to be understanding. Sure, it’s a little annoying when you have to wait… but perfection takes time. Half an hour later, when she finally comes up to you and says “I’m ready”… just look at her and smile. And when she says “what?” … just reply “you look beautiful.”

Imagine if you played football… and you trained really hard… and scored 3 goals in the semi-finals. After the game, your coach did not even congratulate you on your outstanding performance. How would that make you feel? The truth is, it may affect your confidence going into the finals. After all, even the best players need to feel appreciated, or else they’ll start looking at other clubs.

Every girl wants to be complimented by their guy. So don’t listen to women who say silly stuff like “I dress up to look good for myself.” That is a load of bullshit. If she’s home alone, do you think she’s going to get her hair done, put on makeup and dress up to watch her favourite TV series? In fact, she’ll do quite the opposite… she’ll take off her bra, let down her hair and put on the most worn-out t-shirt.

And by the way, if you happen to see her in this relaxed state… it’s pretty cool if you let her know how sexy she is. Women have this way of looking hot, when they’re not even trying. And it’s okay to let her know.

Women don’t read minds. How ironic.

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June 17, 2015
5 Things That Will Make Your Girl Not Trust You

1. Your “friend”

When you have a female friend that your girl doesn’t particularly care for… it’s very unsettling. You constantly reiterate that the relationship is platonic but she can’t understand why you spend so much time with her, she can’t understand why your friend thinks that it’s okay to text you at 11:00 pm, she can’t understand why you get so defensive.

There’s nothing wrong with having female friends but you shouldn’t cross certain boundaries because it will eventually undermine your relationship.

2. Staring at other women

When you’re out with your girl and you try sneak a look at the pretty lady with size D cups… this is very disrespectful. Your girl may playfully slap you on the shoulder and say “I saw that” but deep down she probably feels slighted.

3. Lack of communication

There are times when you have to work late, there are times when you’re out with your friends, there are times when you’re playing FIFA. Clearly, you can’t always have an ongoing conversation with your lady love but surely you can find the time to check up on her. The truth is… if you were trying to have sex for the first time… you would make the time to touch base with her… even if you’re in an important meeting with your boss.

4. When you’re shady with your phone etc.

You’re not expected to share everything with your girlfriend. Some things, you’d rather keep private and that’s fine. However, it’s unnerving when you’re always eager to protect your phone (or laptop). Your demeanor would suggest that you have something to hide and that’s always going to make her suspicious.

No woman will trust a man who is edgy around his technological devices. You know – it’s actually ironic that if you gave her your password, she would be less inclined to check your stuff. Because when you act trustworthy, she has no reason to behave like inspector gadget. On the contrary, when you behave secretive… she’ll begin to lose faith in you like Arsenal fans.

5. When the romance fades

You used to nibble on her ear, then pause momentarily; all while moving towards the bed. She would put her hands in the air, you would slowly take off her top. Then, you would look deeply into her eyes and begin to kiss her passionately — her body melted against yours.

Nowadays, you can’t be bothered with all that romantic stuff… you just want to satisfy your needs. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re interested in someone else but it will cross her mind. She’ll sense the difference in the bedroom. And even if you’re faithful, no girl wants to be with someone who no longer makes her feel desired.

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October 7, 2014
5 Things That Will Make Your Girl Cry

1. Romance

It’s important to go on date nights… just like you did in the courting stages. But from time to time, make an effort to do something different in your relationship. A change of scenery can set the mood for an exhilarating evening. Maybe you’re in the mountains, holding her from behind… watching the sun set. As you give her a gentle kiss on the shoulder, she’ll sigh and glance to the right. When you turn her around, place your hand on her face and affectionately kiss her… a tear will begin to form as she quivers in your arms.

2. Laughter

You did something silly… really silly… and she’s laughing uncontrollably. You’re kind of embarrassed (not really) and you warn her to stop making fun of you. Clearly she’s not going to stop, so you’re forced to playfully throw a pillow at her. She grabs it and smacks you in the head. After an intense pillow fight (that she won)… you both lie on your backs… laughing hysterically till you cry. As the laughter begins to subside… she moves closer to you… and begins to tickle your side… round 2.

3. Stress

She’s not where she wants to be in her career, she’s working out hard but can’t lose her desired weight, she’s making more of an effort in the relationship than you are. On the surface, she seems to be handling everything okay but you notice that she’s going through a very difficult time. Engage her in a conversation that will give her a chance to let it all out. At first, she may be a little reserved but she’ll become more open as you hold her closely and give her a kiss on the forehead. When she brings up the most sensitive issue… all the tears that have been restrained will run its natural course.

4. Disagreement

In a relationship, arguments are inevitable. However, sometimes, we let things escalate because we’re insensitive. We have to make our point, so we end up saying some really hurtful things. We let it get to the point where she screams “You’re an a*shole”, walks out of the room and slams the door.

5. Bad news

It’s really early in the morning… maybe 3:00am. She tried to restrain her tears because she didn’t want to wake you up but the pain became too overwhelming. When the doctor began the conversation by saying “I’m not really sure how to say this”… you both knew the end was nearing.

She’s going to miss her family member dearly and there’s nothing you can do to change the situation. You’ve always protected her from everything… but now you lay helpless in bed. At this point, you realize that you have to be at your strongest. You have to support her with your emotions, you have to support her with your strength, you have to support her with your presence.

Click on the image below to check out my eBook, To Feel Like This Again.

If you have any questions, feel free to send me a message via Facebook or you can email me at chris.paul.lai@gmail.com.

Any picture featured on this site unless otherwise stated, I claim no credit for. The use of images are for aesthetics only and are taken from various websites. If there is a picture that belongs to you and is not credited, please contact me (chris.paul.lai@gmail.com). I will either credit it or remove it.

August 11, 2014
5 Ways To SENSE That You’ve Found The One

It’s okay for a man to be macho (and cool) but he must be compassionate with his lady. A woman deserves to feel special and she should sense when she has found a man worthy of being introduced to her parents. Even if her dad is a bad ass.

See

He is always excited to see you. He makes an effort to spend quality time with you because there is no substitute for communication. If you happen to be in a long distance relationship, it’s natural to fall asleep sometimes while Skype is up and running. Four hours of sleep is not ideal, but he’ll make the sacrifice because he really enjoys talking to you.

Hear

He makes an effort to listen to your concerns because he understands the importance of being able to provide useful feedback. He is never too preoccupied to find out how your day went. You can feel free to let down your hair and express yourself without feeling self-conscious.

Touch

On a special occasion, he takes you out to a restaurant that is exquisite. The ambience is breath-taking and the piped music is beautiful. The conversation is going great but there is still something missing. As he subtly reaches across the table, his fingers begin to flirt with your palm… Finally, a perfect night.

Smell

He recognizes that you love the scent of flowers. At the store, he may not appreciate the smell of the three red roses that he just purchased but when he surprises you… he fully gets it. To see his lady glee with excitement warms his heart. After you momentarily close your eyes while inhaling your flowers… he can’t wait for a hug and kiss.

Taste

He is always willing to assist with the preparation of a home cooked meal. If he is incapable of boiling rice, then he makes up with excellent onion-chopping skills. He also understands that dishes don’t automatically become immersed in soap and water.

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January 16, 2014
Scientists Discover A Love Letter From MARCH 27, 2085
Happy Birthday! … I can hear my 10 year old great granddaughter’s voice but I am unable to really respond. She is such a sweet girl; I wish I could see her. It makes me sad when I want to tell her a goodnight story, but every time I speak, my words don’t quite come out the way I intended. I keep hearing family members say that I have dementia…. Maybe I do.

At 100 years old, my hands ttrreemmbblleee when I try to type. The wrinkles are more profound, the joints ache a little more than normal. I can still smell the turkey being roasted but that’s all I will enjoy. Having zero teeth is a challenge.

Old people like to remember the good times. Every senior citizen is gifted with the acumen to reminisce about life changing experiences…

When I was a young man, I met a beautiful lady. One night, we were up late talking about our insecurities, our ambitions, our secrets. I laid on my back, my head partially elevated by two pillows. Her thigh pressed against my thighs. The rest of her body aligned perfectly with mine. Her hands were folded and rested against my chest which served as a cushion for her chin. At first, I felt vulnerable talking about really sensitive issues but I became more open as I was rewarded with a kiss for every concern that I confessed. I spoke, she listened. She spoke, I listened.

We both had an early morning, so we shared a goodnight kiss and naturally fell into the cuddle position. I think I was in deep sleep because even though my body adjusted to her shuffle, my eyes were still closed. But then, I must have been awake, because for the first time I was able to share the three most protected words in my vocabulary: I love you.

Back in the day, we had the time of our lives. The spontaneous outings were exciting, the adventurous trips were exhilarating, the romantic dates were breath-taking. I deeply cherish these memories but if I could try to explain why my heart continues to beat then I may just experience Christmas 2085.
1. Even though you held the chicken wrap to my mouth and instructed me to take a tiny bite, you always knew the deal.
2. How you embraced my uncomfortable situation as I prayed hard for a response from an employment opportunity.
3. The unconditional support that you provided for….
I knew it would have been too difficult to describe. I want to continue but I can feel an unfamiliar increase in my heart rate. Is there a way to neutralize the impact? … I only wanted to dwell on the positives, but it’s in my best interest to recall the shortcomings in the relationship. I need to slow down my heart rate… Do I have any regrets?
1. I should have gone to more horror movies that were released in the cinemas. It’s just that when I was a kid, Chucky scared the crap out of me. I am sorry for not telling her the truth.
2. I should have come out of early retirement [football (soccer)], so that she could have at least seen me play one competitive game … if I could make the team.
3. I should have visited Seattle to experience snow for the first time with her. She should have been given the opportunity to throw a snowball in my head for all those corny jokes.
On July, 22, 2075 … I read an interesting feature from a world-renowned scientist who was trying to develop a time-machine. The theory was ground breaking, the equations were accurate but this genius couldn’t include the most important component: nostalgia. To manipulate time, you have to be in the time.

As my vision began to fade, I took out a pencil (a writing instrument that was used for centuries but became obsolete in the 2040s) from my souvenir kit and created a drawing for my lady that remained the last image I ever saw.

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December 20, 2013
7.5 Ways To Know That You’re In Love

Language can be limiting in its ability to describe love. Sometimes, the existing vocabulary may fail to accurately capture a particular feeling between a man and a woman. Love searches the imagination and inspires originality. Pay careful attention to the following two words that were created to explain this phenomenon.

eyoos /eyus/ ▪ n. the force of attraction which compels eye contact

sleoute /sli-oot/ ▪ n. that silent moment between two people that words fail to describe

1.   Only a kiss will allow you to sleep comfortably

She complains that she is too close to the edge of the bed; you protest that she has most of the sheet. Somehow you both ‘compromise’ and inch a little closer. You can feel her soft breath against your neck. As she pretends to keep up a semblance of normality, the inevitability of eyoos makes her sigh for one last time… Finally, you can get some rest. Goodnight.

2.   You challenge your bank account on a regular basis

I think the internet bill is due next week or is it tomorrow? When the fuel light comes on… how empty is the gas tank?

You begin to make financial sacrifices to ensure that you are in a position to take your lady out on a romantic date. Maybe you drank water for the entire week, although you craved orange juice. Or you could be in a clothing store that has a 50% sale on your favourite t-shirt brand, but you decide that you would prefer to purchase three red roses instead.

3.   Sometimes for no reason, you just have to say “I love you”

It’s not that the five-hour ceremony that you were forced to attend is boring. You are only yawning because of a lack of sleep. Damn it! … Did the keynote speaker just spend half an hour discussing the 1st slide of his presentation? Naturally, you take the opportunity to send your girlfriend a message saying “I love you”.

On a serious note, you take the time to text her “I love you” while you’re enjoying yourself at an event, when you’re on a break from studying, at the shopping mall, between exercises at the gym. Of course, your eyes remained glued to your cell phone, eagerly awaiting the response: I love you too.

4.   When you’re going through a difficult time, you spend a good portion of the day listening to songs on YouTube

You feel like Michael Bolton is talking to you in “How Am I Supposed to Live Without You”. Fifteen minutes later, you realize that you’ve been listening to the same song. I guess if you changed the melody it would have affected your nostalgic moment. Nonetheless, you get a hold of yourself and few clicks later you end up playing “Hard to Say I’m Sorry” by Az Yet.

Don’t worry, by the end of the day, to convince yourself that you’re cool, you will start listening to tracks from dancehall and rap artistes. “And every time I step up in the building, everybody’s hands go up…”

5.   Her beauty never fades

After waiting three hours for her to get ready for dinner, you were beginning to get a tad bit impatient. But when she appears, you realize that you would have waited four hours for a moment like this. For a second, you attempt to compliment her with a big adjective but your words become delbmuj (read from right to left), so you manage to say “you look nice really”…. I mean … “you look really nice”.

It’s difficult for you to concentrate the entire night. The conversation is engaging but you are struggling to control your emotions. Her beauty is magnificent, her charm is riveting. In one breathless sleoute, your temperature begins to rise.

6.   She understands your sense of humour

You are excited to share all your corny jokes with her. Sometimes she will laugh with you, sometimes she will laugh at you… but you will always laugh together. Good friends often have inside jokes, soulmates often have in love jokes.

7.   Conversations are about anything

You can finally talk to someone about your insecurities and receive genuine advice on how to overcome your challenges. It’s not always easy to be open, but she makes you feel comfortable. You find yourself conversing about even the most sensitive issues because she will be there for you.

7.5   Life is incomplete without her

When you understand that you have so much more to give of yourself in the relationship, there is an endless desire to improve because you want to enjoy her heart-warming smile forever. You realize that LIFE (Love Is For Ever) without her would be like the World Cup Finals without a football. You are certain that she is your better half (0.5).

Click on the image below to check out my eBook, To Feel Like This Again

Thanks for reading! Be sure to check out my other articles on the blog (to the right, under Archives).

If you have any questions, feel free to send me a message via Facebook or you can email me at chris.paul.lai@gmail.com.

Any picture featured on this site unless otherwise stated, I claim no credit for. The use of images are for aesthetics only and are taken from various websites. If there is a picture that belongs to you and is not credited, please contact me (chris.paul.lai@gmail.com). I will either credit it or remove it.

December 9, 2013