5 Ways To SENSE That You’ve Found The One

It’s okay for a man to be macho (and cool) but he must be compassionate with his lady. A woman deserves to feel special and she should sense when she has found a man worthy of being introduced to her parents. Even if her dad is a bad ass.


He is always excited to see you. He makes an effort to spend quality time with you because there is no substitute for communication. If you happen to be in a long distance relationship, it’s natural to fall asleep sometimes while Skype is up and running.  Four hours of sleep is not ideal, but he’ll make the sacrifice because he really enjoys talking to you.


He makes an effort to listen to your concerns because he understands the importance of being able to provide useful feedback. He is never too preoccupied to find out how your day went.  You can feel free to let down your hair and express yourself without feeling self-conscious.



On a special occasion, he takes you out to a restaurant that is exquisite. The ambience is breath-taking and the piped music is beautiful. The conversation is going great but there is still something missing. As he subtly reaches across the table, his fingers begin to flirt with your palm… Finally, a perfect night.


He recognizes that you love the scent of flowers.  At the store, he may not appreciate the smell of the three red roses that he just purchased but when he surprises you… he fully gets it. To see his lady glee with excitement warms his heart.  After you momentarily close your eyes while inhaling your flowers… he can’t wait for a hug and kiss.


He is always willing to assist with the preparation of a home cooked meal. If he is incapable of boiling rice, then he makes up with excellent onion-chopping skills.  He also understands that dishes don’t automatically become immersed in soap and water.

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Christopher Lai is an award winning Jamaican relationship blogger and author. His articles have appeared in The Huffington Post and Thought Catalog.
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9 Responses to 5 Ways To SENSE That You’ve Found The One

  1. Phillip says:

    Yuh … Skype helpes a lot in distance runs

  2. chrislai27 says:

    Definitely helps a lot bro … thanks for reading.

  3. Neely says:

    yea. dishes definitely dont get immersed in soap and water. lots of people tend to forget that. Thanks for sharing!

  4. Charmaine e says:

    Gentlemen I hope you took good notes, this is what romance is all about. Keep it coming Chris 🙂

  5. Kavelle says:

    A man can do all that and still not be the one. This article is quite simplistic and romanticized but does not reflect the realities of relationships.

  6. I agree with Kavelle… Unless a nice year or so pass… Then you can say the five Senses to know you’ve found the one…

  7. jhen smith says:

    Chris you always deliver… absolutely love all your columns. Keep up the good work 🙂

  8. Sachoy Ellis says:

    Hi Chris, I do hope you actually read my comment as its very important.

    The points you have mentioned are important and cogent, however, you are lacking in substantive things. It is good for whichever party, whether male or female to be in-touch with the five (5) senses in a relationship as you have so aptly expounded however, these things are fleeting.

    Lets argue that he/she looses their sense of hearing, smell, taste, touch? Does he (hereafter he also means she) still remain the one? Or do you then move on to another brother or sister who are in-tune with the five senses you have outlines above. (Please note, I speak figuratively)

    What many couples miss and totally ignore, and which is one of the reasons why the divorce rate is so high, is that we invest in earthly, temporal, fleeting things. Will I still love him, or, is he still the one if he cannot cook????……on this very point I must say, that the most intune couple I have ever come across is the one where the wife had to teach her husband how to actually cook, and read….so, are the five sense so important? or is it the willingness to, despite not having all five at this moment, to grow steadfastly to please the other, to attain eventually the five, but more importantly to please God.

    If couples start looking for more eternal traits than temporal ones, I submit that not only will he be ‘the one’ but he will also be everlasting.

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