The Biological Clock
Mom constantly reminds you about the biological clock. Sometimes the nagging is indirect “What happen to that nice young man that came by the house?”… smh … Then there are times when the badgering is direct “When I was your age, your father and I had your sister”.
The bickering can be unsettling but it’s important to understand that you have time on your hands. Physicians will corroborate this statement but if you are not due for a check-up anytime soon then Google can provide useful sources that will give credence. When all’s said and done, always remember that the best gift you can ever give your child… is a good dad.
Rushing Things with a New Crush.
So you met a decent guy and things are going pretty well. Your best friend is excited to meet him because of the text you sent her last night “OMG … He is soooo hottttttt”. Why jeopardize the progress of the relationship with ultimatums like “I would like to have my first child when I am 30 and my second by 33”. Chances are he is probably not ready to engage in these long term discussions after a few dates.
It may be useful to note that a sensible man would be aware of your desire to tie the knot, purchase a home and start a family. He is secretly hoping for this future as well but he has to be certain that he is making the right decision. Maybe he does have a little more time on his hands but you have to be patient… Such is life.
You also need to be sure that he is the one. Keep in mind that every man is capable of impressing a lady to get some good ole loving… but only a keeper can withstand the test of time.
The Need to Compare Yourself To Your Early 20s
So you are oh so excited to post your picture on Facebook for TBT! (Throw back Thursdays). You can’t help but think how great your body looked in 2008. The confidence you once had is not quite there. When you are at the pool, you take a little longer to remove the sarong. You’ve lost the desire to just be spontaneous, get elegantly dressed and head out for a night on the town. You know what … enough of the fluff… So what if your body doesn’t look the same?
Stop with the self-conscious bullshit!! Why waste time monitoring your scale like a fisherman. It’s a misconception to think that you were better looking a few years ago. Embrace your looks as you transition from being that hot girl into that beautiful lady.
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Ha Ha … so what?! … if your body changes … lol but true
Hey Marie! … thanks for reading… yup – definitely true.
“always remember that the best gift you can ever give your child… is a good dad”. That’s precisely what I say. Biological clock or no clock, I’ll only have a child when I have found someone who will be a great dad to that child, i’m not about the single mom or dead beat dad life.
Yeah – I think its extremely important to ensure that you have a child with a man who will be a great dad (ideally a husband)… This, of course, doesn’t happen over night and may take some time.
I believe your right about that and I’m definitely trying to take my time to make the right choice.
Definitely Gee… No need to rush into anything.
Soo very true. Single isn’t a curse. Alot of women fall prey to the misconception that it is. You have to be happy single single before you can be happy in a relationship or marriage.
Definitely agree with you… you have to be happy single (and during the courting stages) before you can be happy in your marriage.
I didn’t know men had biological clocks too. I guess in Jamaica we do because of the countless times I’ve been told (before I was married) that I wasn’t “going on with anything”, by other men , who were all un-married and with numerous offspring. Lol.
Chris, where oh where do you get such good insight? Great article!
Thanks Stacy! Feel free to check out my other articles when you have time.
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Amazing how spot on you are. Great read!
transition from being that hot girl into that beautiful lady…..fav line here
“What happen to that nice young man that came by the house?” Mum…he was an a**! When will the nagging end! Lol.
Great work!