7.5 Things That Men Shouldn’t Do On VALENTINE’S DAY.

Some men take the opportunity to be really stupid on February 14 while others are just oblivious. Either way, it is selfish to act nonchalantly on such a significant day. So, before you create all kinds of idiocies to justify not celebrating Valentine’s Day… consider her feelings. If you can’t be a good boyfriend on Valentine’s Day then you sure as hell won’t be a good husband on Mother’s Day.

1.  Don’t break up with her close to the day over some petty issue. Only an asshole would do something like this. That’s not cool.

2.  Some women downplay their expectations on the day to avoid disappointment. So, she may say something like “Valentine’s Day is not that big of a deal”… They do it partly because you haven’t really been that great of a boyfriend.  It’s kinda like a child not really expecting a birthday gift from a worthless father.


3. Absolutely no last minute shopping. The typical man thinks that turquoise is blue… so choosing a gift on February 13 at 9:30pm is out of the question.  Throughout the relationship, you should have been listening to her for clues.  Search your memory like Bing… but if it returns zero results then pick up the phone and call her bestie.  Let’s not trivialize the significance of a present … it’s imperative that you choose a sweet gift. You have failed if she sends her friend a message like this “I didn’t really like it… but it’s the thought that counts”… F**k the thought, get it right. Try not to be a disappointment like Arsenal Football Club.

4. Don’t buy lingerie. The day is not about you.

5. Getting something similar to last year is a no-no. The pretty drop earrings that you bought last year is basically the same thing as the elegant hoop earrings that you are contemplating to purchase.  It’s not about cost, be creative.


6. Yay! You bought only chocolate on V-day. You were so thoughtful that you did something cliché. On your birthday, how would you feel if she only gave you a piece of cake? Don’t get me wrong, it’s a good move to buy chocolate … but it would be even better if you spent quality time with her — whether it’s a nice romantic walk in the park or a back rub or preparing a meal together. It takes zero effort to walk into a store and buy a box of chocolate (unless of course, the cashier line is ridiculously long).

7. Don’t be the numpty who says “Why do I need one day out of the year to show that I care about my girlfriend?”… I wouldn’t even waste time trying to explain this. On second thought … if it’s important to her … is it so hard to give of yourself?

7.5 Okay, the prices on the menu are more expensive than you imagined. Include a little tax and service charge and tip and before you know it your bank account is empty. It doesn’t matter… under no circumstance must she pay half (0.5) of the bill. Choose a restaurant that you can afford. This is not the night to go dutch.

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Christopher Lai is an award winning Jamaican relationship blogger and author. His articles have appeared in The Huffington Post and Thought Catalog.
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22 Responses to 7.5 Things That Men Shouldn’t Do On VALENTINE’S DAY.

  1. Beth says:

    This is a great post. I am guilty of being one of those women that down play Valentines Day and you are right, I do it in order not to get disappointed. UGH! I want a present!

  2. chrislai27 says:

    Hey Beth… Glad you liked the post… downplaying your feelings is kinda tough … I hope you are presently surprised this Valentine’s Day. 🙂

  3. Camille says:

    I am one of those women who really don’t want anything on Valentine’s day. In fact, my boyfriend always buys me unnecessary stuff and I always get mad and we end up fighting. We have bills to pay and tuition expenses and all that, I don’t need expensive jewelry and fancy dinners. I wish he would take me seriously and not buy me anything and waste money. But blogs like these make him think he has to and I’m only saying I don’t want anything to avoid being disappointed. I’m not.
    Also, Valentine’s day isn’t just for women. It’s for men too. So why can’t a woman take her man out or treat him special on that day? I love Valentine’s day just like everyone else, I just hate spending unnecessary money. What I usually do for my man is I make him his favorite dinner, give him a body rub and finish it off with some awesome sex. But you make it seem like Valentine’s Day is the sole responsibility of the man. I disagree.

  4. chrislai27 says:

    Hey Camille! … I hope you are doing well.

    Generally speaking, I think that women tend to have a better understanding of how to make Valentine’s Day really special. I believe it’s fair to say that we are the ones that tend to slack.

    That being said, I definitely agree that Valentine’s Day is also for men. I also agree that Valentine’s Day is also about making your loved one feel special, it doesn’t have to be a gift… but if you are buying a gift… make an effort to get something that she will really like. As you mentioned, it could be making dinner, giving a body rub and finishing it off wish some awesome loving. I also suggested similar things in the 6th point and alluded to spending time in the 7th point. It really depends on what the lady or man likes.

    My article specifically speaks to things that guys shouldn’t do on Valentine’s Day. A lot of men tend to trivialize February 14 and as a result, I highlighted some of those shortcomings. My hope is that, if a man reads the article, he will make an effort to make it a special day for his lady. It could be a romantic walk through the mountains until you reach a breath-taking viewpoint or it could be a nice picnic at the beach.

    Thanks for your feedback.

  5. Sadie says:

    I like the bit about not splitting the bill. It;’s a turn off for me. And yes, I do play down to avoid disappointment. you are so right

  6. chrislai27 says:

    Definitely think that if a Man invites his lady for dinner on Vday then it should be his treat… of course, she could treat him to like a movie or frozen yogurt after.

    Its not good to play down… if you really look forward to vday, you can throw around a few hints… or express yourself to ensure that he gets it… many guys mean really well but are just oblivious.

  7. D-Champion says:

    Joke business my yute … the last minute shopping … duh stress of it

  8. chrislai27 says:

    Trust me bredda… the last minute shopping is ridiculous.

  9. Jan says:

    Those are all really good points but when his mothers birthday is on valentines day, it kinda kills the whole day for me, not to mention its the exact date of our half of the year anniversary.

  10. chrislai27 says:

    Hey Jan …. Thank you … Looks as though he has a full day on his hands but hopefully he will be able to spend some quality time with you …. Good thing is that Vday is on a Friday this year, so there is no need wake up early the next morning.

  11. Roxy says:

    Hey Chris! That “Arsenal Football Club” comment had me in TEARS! Very good blog! Keep ’em coming and Happy V-Day when it comes!


  12. chrislai27 says:

    LOL! … I happen to be an Avid Arsenal Fan… I really hope we win the league this year … Glad that you enjoyed the blog 🙂 and Happy V-day to you as well when it comes!

  13. Tammy says:

    Lol @ F**k the thought! My thoughts exactly. Although I’m guilty of saying stuff like that

  14. chrislai27 says:

    Hey Tammy… yeah… F**k the thought lol …. but seriously, if we put a lot of effort into making Valentines Day special.. then it will be.

  15. juli says:

    Well chris I think vals day is very special to us all so we shuld put a lot of effort into it to celebrate this special day thank you

  16. chrislai27 says:

    Hi Juli … yup, we should definitely put a lot of effort into making V-day a very special day.

  17. elismooth says:

    in ma whole lyf ma guys only dump me wen vals day s gettin closer. recently de one Am dating called for break up on the 7th Feb hmmmm so sad

  18. Dante says:

    When you wait on Arsenal to win,you get thirsty/
    When you get thirsty, you need a drink/
    When you go for a drink you come to the realization you have no cup/
    When you realize you’ve been cup less for 9 seasons you fall into deep depression/
    When you fall into deep depression you hang yourself from a coconut tree with a microphone cord/
    Don’t hang yourself from a coconut tree with a microphone cord/
    Drop the cup less Arsenal!!!

  19. I am not in agreement with many things stated here but I shall only comment on one:
    “like a child not really expecting a birthday gift from a worthless father” Is there really a need for that analogy? The whole article shines a negative light on men.

    • Tammy says:

      I disagree with you Adrian. Seeing that the article was written by a man, I think it was meant to be funny if nothing else. Also I think it just brings to light some things that the real dead beat men do when such a day approaches. You may be one of the hopeless romantics left on earth but some of us aren’t so lucky to have those in our lives. Laugh a little and have a love filled valentine’s day.

  20. abigail says:

    This is good ,when a girl says well v,day isent soo special,some men think good i dont have to get any ting big or all that ,but i think when she says that ,shes looking for somingting grate to happen ,some men dont get the point,an ya its not always a expensive gift thats worth it she will more prefer a candle light dinner at home insted,an the by the gift late ,FAILER ,TOTAL FAILER.. this was great ,keep up the good work.

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