The Lai Detector

Tag: kiss

  • Why A Girl Shouldn’t Let Her Cheating Ex-Man Ruin Her Future

    14_IMG_0223.jpg

    When you first met your guy… things were perfect. You would stay up late at nights talking on the phone, knowing that you had work in the morning. Because who needs 8 hours of sleep when you’re in love. And when he held you close, pulled you deeper into his arms and sought your lips with his mouth… you wanted the night to last forever.

    You were crazy about this guy and thought you had a future together. Eventually, you realized that he had flaws but as you got older, you were willing to compromise. You even introduced him to your parents… because after all… it’s time to settle down… your biological clock is ticking.

    And then one fine day, after all the suspicions you had, you found out that he’s been having an affair with Melissa. You had a feeling he was sleeping with that “bitch”. And when the reality sets in, you try to control the sobs but eventually you break down in tears.

    A few months later you’re still scarred by his act of infidelity.  You’re not willing to let down your guard and you’ve embraced the mantra “All men are dogs”. So, effectively, you’ve made one asshole ruin your outlook on life.

    However, in this case, your past experiences and your future experiences are mutually exclusive. Furthermore, it would be silly to let your ex dampen your attitude towards men, when he’s probably sleeping with nuff woman. Me saying “probably” is just to sugarcoat the truth… because you and I both know he is f*cking down the place.

    Now, all men are not the same. There are good guys out there. Sure, he’ll make errors along the way. Heck, he may even flirt with a cute girl on the one off occasion. But he’ll quickly realize his error and ensure that he does not continue with the foolishness.

    There will always be temptations for a man… especially a man in a committed relationship. Women will try to sniff him out. And it’s natural to feel good about yourself when a pretty lady compliments you. But, notwithstanding all these distractions, you need to know that you have men out there who will do whatever it takes to remain faithful.

    And eventually, you will notice a big difference. When he leans into your body, gently puts one hand on your face and kisses you, using the other to peel off your clothes… you can tell that he’s not doing this to fulfill his needs… he’s doing this because he needs you.

    So, when an attractive guy has to courage to come up to you, say something witty and engage you in a fun-loving conversation… perhaps you should not put him in the same category as your ex. Give him a clean slate.

    FYI – There are different types of dogs… Some are loyal, they will never betray you… and some are not.

    Did you enjoy this article? Be sure to LIKE my Facebook page for updates…Thanks!

    Click on the image below to check out my eBook, To Feel Like This Again.

    If you have any questions, feel free to email me at chris.paul.lai@gmail.com. 

     Any picture featured on this site unless otherwise stated, I claim no credit for. The use of images are for aesthetics only and are taken from various websites. If there is a picture that belongs to you and is not credited, please contact me (chris.paul.lai@gmail.com). I will either credit it or remove it. 

  • 5 Things That Will Make Your Girl Not Trust You

    Couple with laptop in bed

    1.  Your “friend”

    When you have a female friend that your girl doesn’t particularly care for… it’s very unsettling. You constantly reiterate that the relationship is platonic but she can’t understand why you spend so much time with her, she can’t understand why your friend thinks that it’s okay to text you at 11:00 pm, she can’t understand why you get so defensive.

    There’s nothing wrong with having female friends but you shouldn’t cross certain boundaries because it will eventually undermine your relationship.

    2.  Staring at other women

    When you’re out with your girl and you try sneak a look at the pretty lady with size D cups… this is very disrespectful. Your girl may playfully slap you on the shoulder and say “I saw that” but deep down she probably feels slighted.

    3.  Lack of communication

    There are times when you have to work late, there are times when you’re out with your friends, there are times when you’re playing FIFA. Clearly, you can’t always have an ongoing conversation with your lady love but surely you can find the time to check up on her. The truth is… if you were trying to have sex for the first time… you would make the time to touch base with her… even if you’re in an important meeting with your boss.

    4.  When you’re shady with your phone etc.

    You’re not expected to share everything with your girlfriend. Some things, you’d rather keep private and that’s fine. However, it’s unnerving when you’re always eager to protect your phone (or laptop). Your demeanor would suggest that you have something to hide and that’s always going to make her suspicious.

    No woman will trust a man who is edgy around his technological devices. You know – it’s actually ironic that if you gave her your password, she would be less inclined to check your stuff. Because when you act trustworthy, she has no reason to behave like inspector gadget. On the contrary, when you behave secretive… she’ll begin to lose faith in you like Arsenal fans.

    5.  When the romance fades

    You used to nibble on her ear, then pause momentarily; all while moving towards the bed. She would put her hands in the air, you would slowly take off her top. Then, you would look deeply into her eyes and begin to kiss her passionately — her body melted against yours.

    Nowadays, you can’t be bothered with all that romantic stuff… you just want to satisfy your needs.  It doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re interested in someone else but it will cross her mind. She’ll sense the difference in the bedroom. And even if you’re faithful, no girl wants to be with someone who no longer makes her feel desired.

     Did you enjoy this article? Please share it via social media. Thanks!

    Click here to check out my eBook, To Feel Like This Again.

     

    If you have any questions, feel free to send me a message via Facebook or you can email me at chris.paul.lai@gmail.com. 

     Any picture featured on this site unless otherwise stated, I claim no credit for. The use of images are for aesthetics only and are taken from various websites. If there is a picture that belongs to you and is not credited, please contact me (chris.paul.lai@gmail.com). I will either credit it or remove it. 

  • 5 Reasons Why You Should Argue With Your Boyfriend

    Heated argument

    1.  When he’s complacent

    Sometimes we can be difficult. Or maybe I should rephrase: most times we can be difficult… especially after the courting phase is over. When we were trying to sleep with you for the first time… we would never leave the toilet seat down, we would never make an excuse for going out, we would never be too busy to check up on you.

    2.  To have great make-up sex

    After a heated argument, he inches a little closer, puts his arm around you and says “I’m sorry”. You’re hoping that he kisses you… but when he does… you pause and say “I hate you”. All of a sudden, you’re in a rush to take off his clothes and he is in a greater rush to take off yours.

    Gentlemen, if you’re reading this article… in all the excitement… be mindful of your neighbours. Make-up sex is really important and it’s always very loud. If you’re doing a good job, your neighbours will hear the first sound that she makes (especially if she is a screamer). You don’t want all the excitement to stop after a minute because your neighbours will know you’re a wasteman.

    3.  To have a debate

    From those women who skillfully maneuver their bodies on poles to those who sit on the top floor of a Fortune 500 company… intelligence is an aphrodisiac. In a relationship, they’re some topics you’ll never agree on (politics, economics, sports etc) but to hear him argue his point with facts, to listen to his witty analysis, to be blown away by his insights… that’s a big turn on.

    4.  Because it’s better than the silent treatment

    When we do something wrong… you should yell “you’re an asshole”, head towards the bedroom and start breaking shit… just kidding. Seriously though, it’s not that we like the bickering but some of us prefer it to the silent treatment

    When you’re silent, it’s like we are taking an important exam… we know the answer to the final question… but when we glance at our watch and realize that we only have a minute left … we get really tense, nervous and confused. It’s that frustrating!

    Actually, ignore this point, because I’m confused…. And, now, I don’t know which is worse: arguing or silent treatment.

    5.  To be competitive

    You’re competing against him in a game. You’re pretty confident in your abilities and you tell him “I’m gonna kick your ass”. Clearly, he thinks he’s more athletic (or more knowledgeable), so he makes a condescending remark in jest. You’re infuriated by his arrogance, so you give it your best shot to ensure that you come out victorious.

    They’re two possible outcomes: WIN or LOSE. If you win… you get to laugh at him. If you lose… he will tease you, hug you and give you a big kiss while you pretend to be mad. Maybe it’s better to let him win.

    Click on the image below to check out my eBook, To Feel Like This Again.

    If you have any questions, feel free to send me a message via Facebook or you can email me at chris.paul.lai@gmail.com. 

    Any picture featured on this site unless otherwise stated, I claim no credit for. The use of images are for aesthetics only and are taken from various websites. If there is a picture that belongs to you and is not credited, please contact me (chris.paul.lai@gmail.com). I will either credit it or remove it.

  • Why It’s Important For Your Girlfriend To Cry In Your Relationship

    Close up of woman crying

    It’s important to do fun stuff with your girlfriend. Go out for drinks, watch a movie, random beach trips. Keep doing the things you did when you were courting her and never become complacent. If you really care about your girlfriend, you should constantly improve in your relationship. It’s hard work… sometimes more than you can ever imagine.

    Engaging your girlfriend in fun-loving activities is essential to her happiness but there is so much more to experience. She has a wealth of emotions that will need to be nurtured in difficult times. You also need to accept that you, too, can be vulnerable – that you are able to connect in ways that that will allow your insecurities to become the topic of conversation… ways that words can’t describe.

    Emotions will foster a deeper connection. There are times when she may be going through a very difficult period. It could be an unexpected illness in the family, unfair treatment at work, difficulty with tuition for next semester, fear of failing a final exam, going through an unexpected pregnancy. She needs to more than just talk… she needs to let it all out.  The tears that have been restrained by her efforts to remain strong should take its natural course.

    She will feel a little better after getting everything off her chest. As she sniffs, teary-eyed, shuffles in your arms and tightens her grip… a gentle kiss on the forehead will help make her feel safe. You may not have all the answer but you can provide support.

    The next day (or weekend), a romantic dinner is always a nice way to cheer her up. Sushi is her favourite meal and the ambience will set the mood for a memorable night. Try to discuss things that she is interested in. Maybe she likes to paint … maybe she’s into fashion. And there’s no harm in remembering some of the wonderful moments that you’ve both shared in the relationship. Taking a walk down memory lane can lead to something magical.

    The restaurant manager probably wants you to leave after an hour but surely the night is not over. The beach is usually open 24/7. So why not take a drive there? A romantic walk with a bottle of Moscato  (and two wine glasses) while you walk aimlessly to the perfect spot is pretty cool.  It’s even cooler if you give her a piggyback ride.

    Along the way… talk about stuff that induces laughter. If you’re not that great at giving jokes, I’m sure you have many embarrassing stories that you could share. Stories that would make her laugh till she cries.  Sometimes… it’s not what you say… it’s how you say it.

    When the laughter begins to subside, hold her closely and keep her warm as she trembles in the wind. Express how much she really means to you and don’t hold back on your emotions. Let down your guard and expose your feelings. If you are genuine, she will be unable to control the tears from forming… and the kiss that follows will be one to remember for the rest of her life.

    Click on the image below to check out my eBook, To Feel Like This Again.

    Thanks for reading! Be sure to check out my other articles on the blog (to the right, under Archives).

    If you have any questions, feel free to send me a message via Facebook or you can email me at chris.paul.lai@gmail.com. 

    Any picture featured on this site unless otherwise stated, I claim no credit for. The use of images are for aesthetics only and are taken from various websites. If there is a picture that belongs to you and is not credited, please contact me (chris.paul.lai@gmail.com). I will either credit it or remove it.

  • 5 Ways To SENSE That You’ve Found The One

    It’s okay for a man to be macho (and cool) but he must be compassionate with his lady. A woman deserves to feel special and she should sense when she has found a man worthy of being introduced to her parents. Even if her dad is a bad ass.

    See

    He is always excited to see you. He makes an effort to spend quality time with you because there is no substitute for communication. If you happen to be in a long distance relationship, it’s natural to fall asleep sometimes while Skype is up and running.  Four hours of sleep is not ideal, but he’ll make the sacrifice because he really enjoys talking to you.

    Hear

    He makes an effort to listen to your concerns because he understands the importance of being able to provide useful feedback. He is never too preoccupied to find out how your day went.  You can feel free to let down your hair and express yourself without feeling self-conscious.

    cc

    Touch

    On a special occasion, he takes you out to a restaurant that is exquisite. The ambience is breath-taking and the piped music is beautiful. The conversation is going great but there is still something missing. As he subtly reaches across the table, his fingers begin to flirt with your palm… Finally, a perfect night.

    Smell

    He recognizes that you love the scent of flowers.  At the store, he may not appreciate the smell of the three red roses that he just purchased but when he surprises you… he fully gets it. To see his lady glee with excitement warms his heart.  After you momentarily close your eyes while inhaling your flowers… he can’t wait for a hug and kiss.

    Taste

    He is always willing to assist with the preparation of a home cooked meal. If he is incapable of boiling rice, then he makes up with excellent onion-chopping skills.  He also understands that dishes don’t automatically become immersed in soap and water.

    Click on the image below to check out my eBook, To Feel Like This Again.

    Thanks for reading! Be sure to check out my other articles on the blog (to the right, under Archives).

    Any picture featured on this site unless otherwise stated, I claim no credit for. The use of images are for aesthetics only and are taken from various websites. If there is a picture that belongs to you and is not credited, please contact me (chris.paul.lai@gmail.com). I will either credit it or remove it.