Why Do Women Like Men Who Are In A Relationship


In school, they like to teach us crap like y = mx + c … where m represents the gradient and c represents some bullshit. They also think it’s necessary to talk about subject verb agreement. But shouldn’t education include lessons about real life stuff… like why do women like men who are in a relationship?

So, without further ado, here goes:

Well, it begins with this simple theory… people like things that are somewhat elusive. But what exactly do we mean by this? Well, for example, most women would love a Wittelsbach Diamond necklace, but when something costs US$16.4 million, it’s pretty much off the market. You don’t really expect to have it. So, if they saw the diamond on display, they would get excited and say “this is beautiful” but their interest would end there. However, women will fawn over luxury items from Oscar De La Renta, Louis Vuitton, and Prada. Because although they’re hard to obtain… they’re within reach… or more accurately… they’re somewhat elusive… and that’s a major pull.

Now, when a man is in a relationship, he’s supposedly off the market. He’s in a relationship and he’s going to remain faithful… right? But then he meets a new girl and he’s friendly with her (After all, it’s pretty hard for a guy not to want to talk to a hot girl).

So, given that he was a little accommodating, it’s fair to say that she has a right to think that he may be interested. Just, maybe. Sure, she’ll definitely have an element of doubt because he’s already taken. But this uncertainty will pique her interest.

Essentially, if he’s in a relationship, he’s hard to obtain… but if he’s friendly with her, then he’s also within reach… and this combination makes him somewhat elusive. And as we mentioned earlier, people like things that are somewhat elusive.

Then, you have the whole issue of stability. You just can’t place enough emphasis on stability. When a man is in a committed relationship, it implies that he has been tried, tested and proven. That, in itself, is an attractive feature. Imagine also if he’s the type of guy to be openly affectionate with his girl… wow… he’ll win over the hearts of onlooking women. And I’m not referring to the silly card game on the computer. If he’s comfortable enough to put his arm around his girl, without putting on a show… girls will want him. They’ll want him more than 50 cent wanted Mayweather to read Cat in the Hat. They’ll want him more than Luis Suarez wanted to bite Chellini. They’ll want him more than Bruce Jenner wanted to be a female.

In all seriousness though, the reality is this… since most women are always thinking about marriage and family, it’s normal for them to admire a guy who embraces stability. And when you admire someone, it’s natural to want them for yourself.

Finally, let’s not forget about those women who like guys who ignore them. C’mon, we would never do that. So, here’s the thing, when a guy has a girl, his interaction with other women is a little different. He’s not trying too hard to impress them (especially if he has no hidden agenda). Why should he? He’s already got his woman. So, if he’s talking to another chick about work, or school or whatever, she’ll pick up that he’s not interested. And you know what? This will create a challenge for her. Ultimately, we need to understand that women also have egos. Initially, she may not necessarily be interested in him, but somewhere deep down she’ll want him to at least acknowledge her beauty… whether through his demeanour… or through his words. And that’s where the trouble begins.

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Christopher Lai is an award winning Jamaican relationship blogger and author. His articles have appeared in The Huffington Post and Thought Catalog.
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1 Response to Why Do Women Like Men Who Are In A Relationship

  1. Candice Grinnion Luckane says:

    Good Afternoon, My best friend recently found out that the man she has been with for over a year now kept a very big secret from her. He broke it off with his ex girlfriend and later found out she was pregnant, but wasn’t sure the baby was his. Now the baby is almost a year old and he is the father. My girlfriend recently found out about this and is devastated and broken by it. I don’t know what to say to her because she really loves this man, I would like to get professional advise on what I should do. Please Help Kandi

    Date: Tue, 2 Jun 2015 18:01:39 +0000 To: grinnion95@hotmail.com

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