6 Ways A Woman Will Ruin Her Relationship


If you have stumbled across this blog, you should know that I recently posted an article “6 Ways A Man Will Ruin His Relationship”. I’ve been asked by readers to highlight the problems that are caused by women in relationships. So, here goes…

1.  Entertaining another man

When you’re good looking… guys will compliment you. It’s okay to be polite and to engage in small talk. It’s also okay for you to get excited that a hot guy said, “You’re gorgeous”. But when you decide to exchange phone numbers and justify your actions by saying “he’s just a friend” then you’re asking for trouble. As time passes, you begin to develop an emotional bond with this man… you start to delete his inappropriate messages, you lock your phone with passwords, you think about him during the days, you think about him while you’re with your boyfriend.

When you have an argument with your boyfriend… guess who you’re gonna turn to?

2.  Having too many drinks

Girls night out! You’re having a great time with your friends… you feel nice (tipsy). A cute guy introduces himself, offers to buy you a drink and you accept. He begins to flirt, you flirt back. A few drinks later, he feels comfortable enough to put his hand on your side while he seduces you.

By the way, this is not a ‘mistake’… you consciously allowed yourself to become vulnerable.

3.  Making comparisons

When you constantly compare your relationship to other couples… it will frustrate your man. You don’t need to make remarks like “Why can’t you be as affectionate as Matthew?”  This, however, does not mean that you shouldn’t encourage your man to improve in certain areas but there are more effective ways to do so.

4.  Lack of trust

When he was courting you, he used to send you cute messages throughout the day. Even though he was at work (or in class)… he found a way to constantly text you. It’s understandable that you would love him to be as responsive as he was in the dating stages… but his messaging rate was not sustainable. This does not mean he’s becoming complacent, this does not mean he’s busy texting other women, this does not mean he’s losing interest.

5.  Constantly complaining to your female bestie

You don’t need to give your friend all the negative details about your relationship… especially if you fail to mention the good stuff that he does. If every time you’re upset with your boyfriend, you feel the need to bad chat him with your bestie… she will provide you with an automated response “Ugh … What an asshole! …”  (And then she will ramble on). All this negativity cannot be healthy for your relationship.

6.  Becoming complacent

Your man values your personality, that’s why he asked you to be his girlfriend. But a man also loves it when his lady is looking stunning in a sexy dress. At the party, he feels good to know that other men are thinking “damn dat girl look good”. When he started dating you… you were energetic, spontaneous and in-shape.  These days, you make excuses for going out on a Friday night, you make excuses for going to the gym, you make excuses for everything.

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About Christopher Lai

Christopher Lai is an award winning Jamaican relationship blogger and author. His articles have appeared in The Huffington Post and Thought Catalog.
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11 Responses to 6 Ways A Woman Will Ruin Her Relationship

  1. jhen smith says:

    I noticed a few things I’m doing. Thanks Chris you made me reflect on my behaviour especially the complacency part.

  2. i like this article…a real eye opener….i see things i may have done in the past and so to adjust my attitude etc for the future.. 🙂

  3. This article was really good..I will definitely take your advice in this regard. I think i was guilty of 3,4,5 & 6. Wow.

  4. Terry- Ann says:

    Interesting. Really good points that I’m guilty of.

  5. nathalie campbell says:

    i can relate to number 4, i am feeling the exact way now!!, not that i think he is cheating because i knw he’s not, but a morning text would be nice at times before he starts his busy day!

  6. Kenroy Douglas says:

    Wish i cud get my gf to read this article

  7. Dana-Marie Hudson says:

    This article speaks directly to me, I guess that’s why I am here where I am now, how sad thou

  8. jnell says:

    This is a real eye opener, have me thinking, blaming myself a bit ere…..wish there was more to read but thanks

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  10. susan says:

    Can men not be in the mood for sex? Just learnt the guy I’m dating has a low sex drive can he be helped? How do I cope with it…he’s just 27
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