I hope your SIDE CHICK finds out that you have a GIRLFRIEND

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Your side chick will do all the fun things. She’s always excited to go clubbing on a Friday night, she loves to support you at your football games (even when you’re a bench warmer), she’s always down for a road trip, she can uncannily sense when you want to make love.

However, you have to realize that she, too, has feelings. Dancing the night away (after taking off her 5-inch heels) is exciting but she would also like to sleep in your white t-shirts. She wants to be held closely in your arms at 4:00 am after she guiltily took most of the sheet.

You should never take your side chick (a chick that stays by your side) for granted. She deserves to be respected and treated fairly. If you enjoy her company… don’t hesitate to ask her to be your girlfriend. Acting like you are in a relationship is different from being in a relationship. Wouldn’t it be nice if she could enjoy the shriek of excitement with your family members during the Christmas season? Wouldn’t it be great if your mom could show her all your embarrassing baby pictures?

If you are courting a lady, don’t parade with her for showmanship and use her for satisfaction. It’s not fair to just keep a lady around. A commitment confirms that she is special to you. So, try not to be a selfish bastard and create idiocies like “she knows that I like her but we just not official.”

Instead, take a leap of faith and embrace the possibility of endless laughter, romantic engagements and meaningful conversations. Try to be creative when you ask your side chick to be your girlfriend. Although she may be anticipating the question, let her find out when she least expects it.

For example, maybe you could ask her to fill out a questionnaire for an assignment that reads:

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9 responses to “I hope your SIDE CHICK finds out that you have a GIRLFRIEND”

March 16, 2014

Nicolette Baboolal

Amazing read. I am always pleasantly surprised with your articles- good job again. 🙂

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March 16, 2014

Elo

Wow you are a true romantic aren’t you? lol

Well from a feminist – I enjoyed reading your article but at the same time I was bothered by it’s contents. I think it’s important to note that this kind of advice is targeted for immature men and women. As speaking from the around the 30 yrs mark it just doesn’t apply, for the following reasons:

1. A grown woman may view guy in question as the ‘side dude’ – by the time we reach a certain age, if a woman wants a boyfriend she will say it.
2. Woman aren’t waiting around for some guy to decide that he may want a girlfriend – seriously, I’m a little insulted about this implication
3. Guy in question just doesn’t meet boyfriend standards and may be crushed by response to ‘be my girlfriend question’

I like to think about the boyfriend/girlfriend status thing, as the ‘big talk’. Please note that ground work and preliminary discussions should have already taken place, like ensuring that you are both on the same page.

*sigh – I think I should finish my comments in a blog post – I have too much to say.

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1. March 17, 2014
  
  Nadine Gordon
  
  Good read, but this makes the girlfriend seem so boring,”our side chick will do all the fun things”. the girlfriend can do all the fun things too. Why would a guy ask a side chick to be his girlfriend when he already have a girlfriend, side chick a side chick, girlfriend a girl friend. From my understanding this read makes the side chick look so important, almost phasing out the role of the girlfriend.
  
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March 16, 2014

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March 18, 2014

photo-jen-ic

lol @ ’embarrassing baby pics’ … would love to see yours

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May 8, 2014

abigail

lolzz,hmmm,gud writing..

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June 2, 2014

Char

“but did you know that barbeque chicken, baked chicken and roast chicken are poultry” – love dis line bad!! Its a good one can’t wait to use it. Interesting article.

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July 11, 2014

Ashli

oh man! Mr. Lai sooo very inspirational, it speaks to me!!!!!! nniggaz need your mind lol

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September 16, 2014

tialee

Suppose he has a girlfriend and you are a real side chick that does all of that what then

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