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  • Why Every Man In A Relationship Needs To Make A Big Deal Out Of Valentine’s Day

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    Close to Valentine’s Day, some men will find a reason to break up with their girl. They can’t be bothered to buy a gift; they don’t like her that much or they’re just not into the romantic thing. Now, you really can’t help these guys… they’re douchebags.

    There are, however, good guys who are genuinely not keen on Valentine’s Day…  perhaps they should be reminded of a few things.

    As a man, it’s easy to ask the obvious, “Why do I need one day out of the year to show that I care about my girlfriend?” … And I think this is fair question to ask… especially if you’re the type of guy who puts a lot of effort into your relationship.

    It’s also easy for a man to be apathetic about February 14, because some women will downplay their expectations on the day to avoid disappointment. She may say something like “Valentine’s Day is not that big of a deal to me”… and this does not help the situation.

    Now, in order for you to give of yourself on Valentine’s Day, you really need to appreciate the significance of the day. Sir, you need to realize how important it is to most women… even if she feigns nonchalance.

    Being in a good relationship is like being a professional tennis player. You have to constantly play in tournaments for a number of reasons… but your focus is on the four major titles… the four Grand Slams. Similarly, when you’re in a relationship, you have to constantly take your girl out on dates but your focus should be on the four major date nights… the big four.

    Australian Open (Birthday)

    French Open (Valentine’s Day)

    Wimbledon (Anniversary)

    US Open (New Year’s Eve)

    In essence, Valentine’s Day is right up the alley with the other important nights and should be treated with the same level of enthusiasm. Now, every woman is different, so some may give more weight to the other dates… just like how a tennis player may have a preference for a particular Grand Slam… but the fact remains the same… V-day is very important.

    Now, for a second, recall when you first asked your girl out on a date. You probably didn’t have the balls to call her, so you sent her a message… then anxiously waited for a response. And when she replied, your reaction wasn’t exactly thug-like. So, perhaps you’re not as macho as you may think you are … you definitely have it in you to do something romantic.

    Also, hypothetically speaking… let’s say you began courting your girl in January… I’m pretty sure you would do something sweet on Valentine’s Day because you know how much it would mean to her.

    So, clearly, you understand the significance of the day.

    We can all agree that men like to be challenged… it’s healthy for our egos. And you should certainly adopt that mindset when it comes to Valentine’s Day. You should give it your best shot to make it an unforgettable day. This, of course, requires you to be very creative… and this, of course, requires sacrifice. But it’s definitely worth it when after a day filled with surprises, laughter and nostalgia… you get to draw closer, put your arms around her and kiss her lips.

    And for the Ladies who are reading this article… please note that when I made the tennis analogy, you should know that it applies to Mixed Doubles as well. Because you, also, have to understand that if you want to make the day a memorable one… you need to make him feel special. Valentine’s Day is hard work… but people don’t usually appreciate things that come easy… except a free ticket to a party.

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  • 7.5 Things That Men Shouldn’t Do On VALENTINE’S DAY.

    Some men take the opportunity to be really stupid on February 14 while others are just oblivious. Either way, it is selfish to act nonchalantly on such a significant day. So, before you create all kinds of idiocies to justify not celebrating Valentine’s Day… consider her feelings. If you can’t be a good boyfriend on Valentine’s Day then you sure as hell won’t be a good husband on Mother’s Day.

    1.  Don’t break up with her close to the day over some petty issue. Only an asshole would do something like this. That’s not cool.

    2.  Some women downplay their expectations on the day to avoid disappointment. So, she may say something like “Valentine’s Day is not that big of a deal”… They do it partly because you haven’t really been that great of a boyfriend.  It’s kinda like a child not really expecting a birthday gift from a worthless father.

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    3. Absolutely no last minute shopping. The typical man thinks that turquoise is blue… so choosing a gift on February 13 at 9:30pm is out of the question.  Throughout the relationship, you should have been listening to her for clues.  Search your memory like Bing… but if it returns zero results then pick up the phone and call her bestie.  Let’s not trivialize the significance of a present … it’s imperative that you choose a sweet gift. You have failed if she sends her friend a message like this “I didn’t really like it… but it’s the thought that counts”… F**k the thought, get it right. Try not to be a disappointment like Arsenal Football Club.

    4. Don’t buy lingerie. The day is not about you.

    5. Getting something similar to last year is a no-no. The pretty drop earrings that you bought last year is basically the same thing as the elegant hoop earrings that you are contemplating to purchase.  It’s not about cost, be creative.

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    6. Yay! You bought only chocolate on V-day. You were so thoughtful that you did something cliché. On your birthday, how would you feel if she only gave you a piece of cake? Don’t get me wrong, it’s a good move to buy chocolate … but it would be even better if you spent quality time with her — whether it’s a nice romantic walk in the park or a back rub or preparing a meal together. It takes zero effort to walk into a store and buy a box of chocolate (unless of course, the cashier line is ridiculously long).

    7. Don’t be the numpty who says “Why do I need one day out of the year to show that I care about my girlfriend?”… I wouldn’t even waste time trying to explain this. On second thought … if it’s important to her … is it so hard to give of yourself?

    7.5 Okay, the prices on the menu are more expensive than you imagined. Include a little tax and service charge and tip and before you know it your bank account is empty. It doesn’t matter… under no circumstance must she pay half (0.5) of the bill. Choose a restaurant that you can afford. This is not the night to go dutch.

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