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Tag: Trust

  • 5 Things That Will Make Your Girl Not Trust You

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    1.  Your “friend”

    When you have a female friend that your girl doesn’t particularly care for… it’s very unsettling. You constantly reiterate that the relationship is platonic but she can’t understand why you spend so much time with her, she can’t understand why your friend thinks that it’s okay to text you at 11:00 pm, she can’t understand why you get so defensive.

    There’s nothing wrong with having female friends but you shouldn’t cross certain boundaries because it will eventually undermine your relationship.

    2.  Staring at other women

    When you’re out with your girl and you try sneak a look at the pretty lady with size D cups… this is very disrespectful. Your girl may playfully slap you on the shoulder and say “I saw that” but deep down she probably feels slighted.

    3.  Lack of communication

    There are times when you have to work late, there are times when you’re out with your friends, there are times when you’re playing FIFA. Clearly, you can’t always have an ongoing conversation with your lady love but surely you can find the time to check up on her. The truth is… if you were trying to have sex for the first time… you would make the time to touch base with her… even if you’re in an important meeting with your boss.

    4.  When you’re shady with your phone etc.

    You’re not expected to share everything with your girlfriend. Some things, you’d rather keep private and that’s fine. However, it’s unnerving when you’re always eager to protect your phone (or laptop). Your demeanor would suggest that you have something to hide and that’s always going to make her suspicious.

    No woman will trust a man who is edgy around his technological devices. You know – it’s actually ironic that if you gave her your password, she would be less inclined to check your stuff. Because when you act trustworthy, she has no reason to behave like inspector gadget. On the contrary, when you behave secretive… she’ll begin to lose faith in you like Arsenal fans.

    5.  When the romance fades

    You used to nibble on her ear, then pause momentarily; all while moving towards the bed. She would put her hands in the air, you would slowly take off her top. Then, you would look deeply into her eyes and begin to kiss her passionately — her body melted against yours.

    Nowadays, you can’t be bothered with all that romantic stuff… you just want to satisfy your needs.  It doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re interested in someone else but it will cross her mind. She’ll sense the difference in the bedroom. And even if you’re faithful, no girl wants to be with someone who no longer makes her feel desired.

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  • 6 Things That Women Need To Stop Doing In Relationships

    Typically, we are the ones who tend to leave the toilet seat up, fail to listen to your concerns and become less affectionate with time. However, this does not absolve you of your role in petty arguments. From time to time, it’s natural to have little disagreements to keep things interesting (great makeup sex!). But let’s not get carried away. Certain things can be avoided.

    1.  Checking his cell phone

    It’s mind boggling how a lady can trust a man with her savings but finds it difficult to grant him exclusive access to his cell phone. What exactly are you hoping to find? I am not saying that you won’t be tempted to take a sneak peek if your partner is taking a shower in the night and the phone vibrates. We are all guilty of that at some point (Except me 🙂 ). Anyhow, try not to audition for the role of Sherlock Holmes in your relationship. Trust is foundation of a meaningful association.

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    2. “How does this dress look?”

    It’s a little unfair to take a few hours to get ready and then ask your boyfriend “Do you think I should wear something else?” Here is the problem: there are two answers YES and NO. If he says yes… he has earned himself a slap. If he says no … then the imminent question will follow “Are you sure?”

    Look, if you genuinely want his opinion, observe his reaction. Besides, for him it doesn’t matter how well the designer made the spaghetti straps…he should be too preoccupied with your beauty to notice.

    Say what you want about mirrors, but they are fairly accurate (unlike dem damn cameras! … especially when you’re taking a selfie… u zimme).

    3.  Expect him to read your mind

    If he did something that is bothering you … say it to him. For men, it is easier to figure out Fermat’s Last Theorem than to understand what’s going on in your head.

    4.  Drift apart from your girlfriends

    Everybody knows that your boyfriend is the greatest thing since sliced bread. All your updates serve as a constant reminder to everyone who has access to the internet. It’s great that you found a keeper but your relationship will only survive if you have girlfriends. You both need   s     p     a     c     e   from each other.  It’s healthy… like a Subway sandwich.

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    5.  The Food Dilemma

    Boyfriend: “Babes… I’m going to get something from Wendy’s…. Would you like anything?”

    Girlfriend: “No thanks… I’m not hungry”

    Fifteen minutes later, he returns with a combo that he is very eager to consume. On the way home, his appetite fell in love with the smell of the burger. Hopefully, the meal is filling because he is starving. As he unwraps the burger, you sheepishly ask for a bite. It doesn’t stop there.

    * Please note that we don’t mind sharing but we asked you if you wanted something 🙂 

    6.  Demand an explanation on spot

    Men are capable of making mistakes. Leaving the fridge door open, forgetting your anniversary, forgetting the clothes in the dryer. I am joking about the anniversary comment… if he forgets such an important day then you should leave a pillow on the couch for him. Anyway, on a serious note, we can’t always respond immediately to minor infringements when you call. We are not necessarily avoiding the topic but sometimes we may just be in the middle of a conversation with friends, completing an assignment for work or in the middle of an intense work-out session.

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