Listen up ladies. We are under a lot pressure to perform in bed, more than you can ever imagine. And the pressure intensifies when it’s the first night we’re making love to you. Trust me, we don’t want to disappoint, and we understand it takes work to give you a mind-blowing orgasm. We also have monstrous egos, so we can’t afford for you to tell your bestie “Ugh… he was awful in bed.”

Gentlemen… the reality is this… you could be a CEO, a professional athlete, a doctor, a thug, a construction worker… at some point; you’ve been in a position where your dick failed you.

So if you’re a young man and you recently experienced this embarrassing moment, you should know that it happens to the best of us. It’s not the end of the world. Sure, you’ll feel like shit but you can’t let that dampen your mood or worse… affect future performances.

Now, there are a number of reasons for this failure. But for crying out loud, ladies, please stop assuming that it has anything to do with your physical appearance. There’s no need to add to the disappointment… it will only make things worse. We have a lot of things going on in our heads… and it may have nothing to do with your breasts, nothing to do with your breath, and nothing to do with down there.

We could be really attracted to you, but on the day, our dick just won’t stay up. And, as you can imagine, this is the most frustrating thing ever.

Perhaps, we were too eager to deliver an epic performance. We spent all day thinking about you.

Another possibility is that we may be lacking in confidence. And this spells trouble. If you even manage to get it up, it’s impossible to hit all the right spots if you’re not in the vibe. Even if you’re a beast in bed, if your confidence is low, you’ll be as useless as Gonzalo Higuain.

And yeah, we could also be nervous. Maybe you have a good feeling about this girl, and you don’t want to mess things up. Or maybe you think she’s out of your league. Or maybe you think she’s more experienced than you are.

So, ladies, if you’re with a guy and he failed on the job… don’t prematurely jump to conclusions and assume that it has anything to do with your body. Instead, try to act normal around him, remember his ego is taking a serious beating. For what it’s worth… avoid asking questions pertaining to what happened in the bedroom.

In fact, it would be great if you could do little things to make him feel comfortable. That’s the key. When you’re around him, try to be affectionate… even if he’s not the type to reciprocate. If he’s watching TV on the couch… jump on him, wrap your arms around him, and give him a loud sloppy kiss… especially if you have on lipstick. It really helps if he understands that you really care about him, and it’s not just about sex. Help him to feel comfortable.

And guys, if you’re in a position where your dick failed you. Try not to be too hard on yourself. There’s no denying that it’s a very embarrassing moment… but we all go through it at some point. Don’t be in a rush to get back in the bedroom to redeem yourself; that’s the worst thing you could possibly do. Remember, sex is 70% mental; 30% physical. Take your time and proceed when you’re good and ready.

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