How To Improve Your S.E.X Life


Around friends, men like to talk a big game. They’ll brag about how great they are in bed, they’ll lie about sleeping with a new girl, they’ll pretend they have a big package… even if it’s 3 inches.

When a man talks about sex, he often refers to the physical aspect of it. He understands that, sometimes, he needs to be a predator in the bedroom. With his eyes riveted on her… he’ll move closer, crush his lips against hers, and tear off her dress. He’ll touch her in all the right places while he pushes deeper and deeper… until she moans, screams and trembles.

Whether or not you want to acknowledge it… sex is very important. Men recognize this… and will take all kinds of aphrodisiac a few hours before they meet up with their girl. So, they may drink sour sop juice, eat cow cod soup, or drink noni juice. Oh yeah, and apparently, if you want to go for hours… you should try blending a concoction called magnum (Supligen, peanuts, Guinness, banana, oats).

Perhaps these magic potions provide men with an edge… who knows… but certainly if a man is in good shape… this must translate into something favourable in bed. If he runs regularly, it must improve his stamina. If he pumps weights, he should be able to lift her up. If he does abs, he can penetrate harder.

Now, we all have our egos and we’re all convinced that we’re conquistadors in bed. Maybe this belief is true or maybe it’s a figment of our imagination. Either way, we should endeavour to take things to the next level.

For a woman, sex is more than just a physical thing… there is so much more to experience in the bedroom. So, if you want to take things to a whole new level… you have to be able to connect emotionally with her.

It begins with simple things like communicating. When you’re willing to talk to your girl about her plans, her concerns, her issues … you help her let down her guard. As you begin to unleash her emotions, she’ll become more comfortable around you. It’s even more effective when you reciprocate.

It’s also cool to let your girl know that she is beautiful. And, of course, you should tell her she is sexy… especially if she makes an effort to work out. When you compliment your girl… it’s a gentle reminder that you’re still attracted to her. And, you know what, even the prettiest of women have insecurities. Maybe she thinks her stretch marks are too obvious, maybe she thinks her tummy is too puffy, maybe she thinks she is fat. And the reality is this…. sex is more enjoyable when your girl is comfortable with her body.

In truth… when your woman can sense that the relationship is more than just sex, she’ll want you to take control of her body. And when she is comfortable… her thoughts will solely be on you. You’ll feel a difference in the intensity, you’ll feel a difference in the passion, you’ll feel a difference in her body.

Essentially, it takes two to have great sex. You need to be physically ready… and she needs to be comfortable. And it would be great if you can make things easier for her.

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About Christopher Lai

Christopher Lai is an award winning Jamaican relationship blogger and author. His articles have appeared in The Huffington Post and Thought Catalog.
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10 Responses to How To Improve Your S.E.X Life

  1. Dude, my uncle is 63 and drinks that magnum mix several nights a week….am I supposed to assume…..let me not think about it! Thanks

  2. Randene Wood says:

    Good pointers…

  3. cosmopolitewannabe says:

    TRUTH! I’m a woman and I approve this message.

  4. Tamara says:

    I totally agree with these pointers. Great article.

  5. Lots of true here, Lai!

  6. coleen nelson says:

    so true. When a woman is comfortable she will do anything to improve her sex life. Yes men it;s all about their ego but when there is a connection then it is hard to let go.

  7. kerice says:

    Great article

  8. Alecia Creighton says:

    This blog is so refreshing

  9. Letaya Gordon says:

    This is so true. The way to a girl;s heart lol.

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