Men are born with big egos. So it’s natural for us to talk tough and act cool around our peers. I was recently playing FIFA with a guy who said “If my girl ever cheated on me, I am Gone like the Nsync song.” Of course I laughed, it was pretty funny… Actually, I was surprised that he even used a metaphor like that… I thought he only listened to Rick Ross, Mavado, Lil Wayne etc. A few weeks later, he said that he wanted to talk about something. So I sat down with a Guinness in my hand (when I really wanted a Baileys but I was guilty of a facade) while he paced up and down with his hands massaging his face. I witnessed a tough guy break down and cry. You know how f**king awkward that was.
Men like to say that “if she cheated once, then she will do it again”. Okay, this is not entirely true. In life, there are circumstances that may lead to mistakes. Human beings are not perfect. So, before you make a decision that is inextricably linked to your pride, take the time to ensure that you won’t regret your choice. I’m not saying that you should continue your relationship but, if you find out that your girlfriend cheated, here are a few things to consider:
1. Were you faithful in the relationship?
YES – kissing is cheating. You can’t be canoodling in the club and think that you are off the hook. YES – it is also cheating if she doesn’t know about the act. Double standards are unacceptable. Try to honestly evaluate yourself.
2. Did she cheat on you with a friend? or a person that you hate?
If the answer is yes to any of the aforementioned questions, then you probably should pack your bags and move on. The pain would be perpetual even for the ‘toughest’ of guys.
3. Did you unknowingly push her away?
There is no justification for cheating but you can try to understand what may have caused her actions. Men tend to fulfil the expectations of their lady in the courting stages but then become less engaged as time passes. Date nights become less frequent, cooking together becomes a thing of past, cuddling becomes a chore, hugs become extinct, foreplay becomes obsolete. Then a nice young man comes along who does what you are supposed to be doing. And BANG!
4. Was he better than you in bed?
I am just joking… lol… please don’t try to find out this information; you will never know the truth.
5. Was it a one-off thing? Or was it continuous?
Relationships can be complicated. You will make errors, she will make errors. But the one-off blunder is far more manageable than an emotional bond with Mr. Six Pack and Big Biceps.
6. Are you willing to really forgive her?
Absorb all the advice and opinions from friends, blogs, relatives, and ex-girlfriends. But at the end of the day, it’s what you really want. Aside from this one-off blooper, how do you feel when you are with her?
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